Have an interview with your partner about Forgiveness with 10 questions

Karis Wong

One of the most exciting victories in my work has got to be seeing couples forgive and/ or reconcile! It is the reason why I wake up feeling fulfilled in the things I do and the sacrifices I make. Whether you are single or married, forgiveness is nothing new to you. We got hurt, offended, disappointed early on since we were little children and it doesn’t stop. At the same time, we continuously hurt, offend, disappoint others as well whether we like it or not.

Whether you are single, married, divorced or anything in between, forgiveness is nothing new to you. We got hurt, offended, disappointed early on since we were little children and it doesn’t stop. At the same time, we continuously hurt, offend, and disappoint others as well whether we like it or not. We “technically” know that we should forgive, but not everybody knows how to forgive.

One of the most exciting victories in my work has got to be seeing couples forgive and/ or reconcile! It is the reason why I wake up feeling fulfilled in the things I do and the sacrifices I make. However, couples always have VERY different viewpoints on what forgiveness is and how it looks like. Take a look at the following 10 questions about forgiveness and interview your spouse what (s)he thinks. You may be surprised with what you find out.

  1. Is it wrong to get angry when you are trying to forgive?
  2. Should you give up all hard feelings toward the person you forgive?
  3. Are you being a weak martyr when you forgive?
  4. Will the hurtful feelings go away over time and will the forgiveness of the other person take care of itself?
  5. If you have forgiven, will you never have hard feelings against those who hurt you again?
  6. If you forgive, are you saying that what happened didn’t matter?
  7. Is forgiveness basically a one-time decision, (Either you forgive or you don’t)?
  8. Should you forgive even if the person who hurt you does not repent?
  9. When forgiving, should you always try to forgive and forget? If yes, what is the difference between forgetting and “remembering no more”?
  10. Is forgiveness the same as reconciliation?

Well, without ruining your discussion, let me at least give you a freebie here about Forgiveness and Reconciliation.